I consider myself lucky that I have a child that doesn’t hit. Because even parents who are really good at helping their children communicate and coach their kids through emotions, can still end up with an aggressor. That’s just the way it is when they’re under four. You try your hardest but some kids find it harder to transfer physical energy into vocal energy, or redirect their physical energy at a wall or pillow or activity.
Tonight, Avi hit me. In the face. And her nails aren’t perfectly clipped so it included a scratch.
I was actually caught so off guard that I just glared at her for a while.
I didn’t yell, though. Because I also realized immediately that I’d put her in a precarious position and her hitting me made complete sense.
It was past 9 at night after a long day. She had visited her dad for the first time in almost a week and then had to come home to my house late anyways (not something we usually do). And then I was teaching her a new card game and when she didn’t like the result, she reacted without thinking. Honestly, who could think that late at night after a long day and you’re only three?
I reminded her about other options and then we ended the game and went up for stories and bedtime without incident.
It was a good reminder: only expect what people can truly give. Best behavior late at night after an exhausting day won’t happen…for grown-ups too.